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How to Hack Your Brain
You are not who you think you are. Your
personality and identity is significantly more malleable than you
realize. With a few simple tricks, you can exploit your brain's innate
functionality to change just about anything about yourself. Here's how.
You Are Not Necessarily the Person You Think You Are
You
are not who you are, but rather the product of many influences. The
saying "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" exists for a reason: the
longer you've been the person you think you are, the harder it becomes
to change. The thing is, you
can dramatically change who you
are. It's actually not so much that it's difficult to change, but that
you've developed patterns and habits that make it easier to do things
the way you do them. Trying something in a new way can feel very
awkward, it will be generally less efficient by virtue of being
something new to you, and it often lacks excitement for you when it
involves giving up the comfort associated with
your way.
That's
not to say you aren't born with some inherent abilities, but most of
what you consider part of your identity is a product of influence. While
we don't know the exact ratio of nature to nurture, there is
undoubtedly a combination of both that makes us who we are. We have a
tendency to think that change is difficult, but it's really just a
matter of changing your influence. You're probably familiar with
Stockholm syndrome-the
term used to describe how hostage victims tend to develop positive
feelings towards their captors. Stockholm syndrome isn't a kind of
brainwashing by the captor; instead, the victim
adapts to the
poor situation he or she is in. If most people can adapt to something as
awful as being kidnapped, most people can adapt to smaller positive
changes in their own lives. You can even make enormous changes if you're
willing to put in the work and you provide yourself with the proper
influences. We're going to look at how to do that on high and low
levels, from priming your brain to manipulating your own emotions, and
also look at how your environment and the people you know shape your
life.
Most of these methods won't make you feel comfortable, and,
at times, they may sound a bit crazy, but it is possible to "hack" your
own brain. Here are just a few ways to do it.
Priming Your Brain
Priming
is a ridiculously simple technique because all it involves is talking
to yourself. On the dull end of the spectrum, it's similar to
self-affirmation. On the crazier end of the spectrum, it bears some
similarities with
neuro-linguistic programming. Priming your brain involves reciting a given set of words that are designed to alter your mindset. It is
not
brainwashing and it cannot make you do anything you don't want to do.
What it can accomplish, however, is putting you into a state of mind
that will be more useful to you with a given situation or task.
Before we get into the specifics of how to prime your brain, let's talk about how and why it works. If you were to say the word
mustard
out loud, and then you were to see a portion of the word later, you'd
be reminded of mustard. For example, if you were to say "I must have
this" you might be reminded of mustard because of the word must. If you
were hungry and liked mustard, you may even want some. It's the same
phenomenon that compels you to buy a particular brand of shampoo that
you saw on television even if you 1) don't remember seeing the
commercial, and 2) couldn't care less what kind of shampoo you use. This
is essentially how priming works, and it's all thanks to your memory.
While
you're not going to remember everything you say, that doesn't mean what
you say is gone forever. While everything stored in your recent memory
may not be immediately accessible, all you really need to bring
something up is a trigger word. This is conceptually similar to using
acronyms as a memory tool (e.g.
Roy G. Biv)
but isn't designed to help you actually remember anything. Instead, the
goal is to place common words that, when apart, have no real specific
value, but when together, have an associative value that make you think
of happy things, sad things, specific people, or ambition. If any of
those common words come up again later in the day, you'll immediately
associate that word with the associative value of the group. Here's an
example:
- drive
- do
- go
- make
- objective
- important
- create
- commitment
- purpose
- enthusiasm
- eager
- motivation
This
is a list of words synonymous with or related to ambition. It's
designed to be read aloud to put you in a more ambitious mindset,
focusing your thoughts and priming your brain to react ambitiously when
these words, or portions of these words, come up later in your day.
Another exercise involves taking a shorter list of priming words and making a sentence with it. Here's an example:
- the
- smiled
- looked
- girl
- and
These
words can form the sentence "the girl looked and smiled," which should
bring to mind pleasant associations for most people. Constructing
sentences out of word lists (which you can create yourself) can help put
you in the right mindset.
These two methods can be used to prime
your brain. They are not magic tricks that will instantly make you feel
happy, ambitious, or whatever, but they can help to provide you with
the mindset you need to better accomplish your daily tasks.
For more reading on priming, and a look at some really interesting studies, don't forget to check out the
references for this article.
Using Your Emotions
If you've ever found yourself making out-of-character decisions based
on your emotional state—such as binging on ice cream after a breakup—you
know how easily your feelings can overtake your actions. Rather than
letting your emotions lead you towards poor judgment and irrational
behavior, however, you can learn to compensate for different emotional
states and to fabricate emotions to alter your mood. In order to do that
you need to, simply put, get in touch with your feelings. The idea
isn't so much to cry into a pillow about your wasted childhood, but
understand what you're feeling when you're feeling it, what the root
cause is, and what you can do about it. We're going to take a look at
how you can dissect your emotional state to use it to your advantage,
and also look at how you can fabricate emotion to change how you're
feeling.
Take an Acting Class
You
can't really control your emotions if you don't understand them, and
one of the best ways to understand them is to take an acting class. To
some this may sound fun, and to others this may sound like hell. Love it
or hate it, acting lessons are one of the best ways to explore how and
why you feel certain things. Your goal should be to find a class that
will make you uncomfortable every time you go. In my experience, any
class teaching the
Meisner technique
is very effective if you put a lot of effort into the exercises. It can
be slow, tedious, and uncomfortable, but it's capable of bringing out
emotion you might not realize you had.
Make Yourself Uncomfortable
Your
emotions aren't in full force if you're not really doing anything, so
you need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations in order to bring
them out. This doesn't mean you should make yourself feel horrible, but
that you should go out and do things that you might resist because
you're worried about the downsides. Meeting new people is something that
makes most people uncomfortable, and it's a great place to start,
especially if it's a first date. Try new things that scare you. If you
notice you're glued to the couch and don't want to get up, do the
opposite. Spend time with people you don't like. Go to a movie you're
sure you'll hate. Your experiences won't always be pleasant, but they
should incite emotion that you can later analyze and better understand.
Keep Track of How You Feel
Like
an abbreviated diary, every time you have an emotional reaction to
something, write it down. You don't need much detail, but just a
sentence or two noting the emotion you're experiencing and the
(possible) cause. For example, I get extremely irritable when I'm
hungry. I will lose my temper far more easily when I'm hungry, so
whenever I notice myself thinking irrational (and sometimes hateful)
things, I always remind myself that I'm just hungry, I'll eat in a
minute, and the "asshole" who accidentally missed the garbage can and
didn't notice is mostly a result of my frustrated stomach. Until I
started to pay attention, I never really noticed that I was a jerk
whenever I was hungry. Instead, I just thought I was a jerk. This is a
simple example, but the point is this: pay attention to how you feel and
the other issues currently present, and you'll find it much easier to
manage your negative emotions.
Emote in Front of the Mirror
Fabricating
emotion is difficult. Once you understand your emotions you'll find it a
bit easier, but it helps to be able to recall how it feels, physically,
to emote. We all know how to smile, for example, but you can probably
count more fake smiles in family photographs than you can real ones. If
you don't know how to create an authentic smile (also known as the
Duchenne smile), it will be very obvious to everyone around you.
The
easiest way to learn to fake expressions is to practice them in the
mirror. You can try them out to see what you look like and you'll
immediately know if they're passable or not. You'll also note that it
feels physically different to create an authentic-looking emotion than
it does to create a fake-looking emotion. For example, an authentic
smile shows more in the eyes than it does in your mouth. When someone
smiles a true smile, their eyes wrinkle (creating "crows feet") because a
new musicle—the
orbicularis oculi muscle—is used. You'll come to remember this feeling and be able to replicate it away from the mirror after a little practice.
It's not necessarily easy to emote in front of the mirror,
but that's not as hard as you think. If your goal is simply to learn to
smile better, you'll get there if you just stare at yourself for awhile.
Eventually it will get so ridiculous that you'll have to laugh. If
you're less patient, you can try to make yourself laugh by making
strange faces or just being ridiculous. If you're comfortable, have a
friend over to help. For other emotions, you simply need to find a
source of that emotion and bring it into play in front of the mirror. If
you've employed any of the previously discussed techniques, you may
already have a reserve. Alternatively, watch a movie that makes you
laugh or cry and do it by the mirror. (Yes, this is absolutely a strange
thing to do, but it'll work.) If you're interested in anger, you should
have no problem getting there by just complaining to yourself or to a
friend on the phone.
Emoting in front of the mirror is going to
be strange and awkward at first, but after a few tries you'll get the
hang of it and be able to create authentic expressions on demand. These
expressions
do surface from genuine emotion, so repeating them
can actually make you feel happier/sadder/angrier/etc. through
repetition. If you need to change your mood and your mindset, the
ability to fake it ‘til you make it is very, very useful.
Consider Your Health
Anything you do is
much
easier if you're healthy—and that goes for mental as well as physical
health. These methods won't be terribly helpful if you're seriously
depressed. If you're not sleeping, eating well, and/or getting a
reasonable amount of physical activity in each day, you're going to find
them difficult as well. You can do pretty much everything better if you
take care of your mind and your body, so don't look at anything you've
read here as a panacea for the problems in your life. Everything here
assumes that you take reasonably good care of yourself and generally
start your day in a good place. If you're not feeling good on most days,
you need to take care of those problems before you decide to start
playing mind tricks with yourself. Always be healthy first.
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